Greetings, child. I am Baba Ali. I feel the weight in your heart, the ache that brought you here. The silence where their laughter used to be is deafening, isn’t it? You are not alone in this pain. In fact, studies show that only about 32% of couples who break up ever find their way back to each other. It is a hard truth, and it is why so many feel lost, searching for a glimmer of hope in the darkness.  You are here because you are looking for more than just hope; you are looking for a path. You are wondering how to get your ex back with a spell. In my many years as a Voodoo practitioner, I have guided countless souls through this very storm. What I will share with you today is not a trick or a means of manipulation. It is a sacred process, a way to clear the path between two hearts, honor the love that was, and invite the possibility of what could be again.

In this guide, we will walk the path together. We will explore the true nature of love as an energy, understand the ethics that protect your spirit, and learn a simple, powerful ritual using items you can find in your own home. This is not about forcing anyone’s will. It is about healing, alignment, and creating a powerful call from your soul to theirs.

First, Understand the Energy of Love and Heartbreak

Before we touch a single candle or whisper a single word of power, you must understand what we are truly working with. Magic is not a switch you flip; it is the art of directing energy that already exists. To influence matters of the heart, you must first speak the language of the heart, and that language is energy.

Love as a Powerful, Living Energy

In the Voodoo tradition, we see love not as a simple emotion but as a profound and enduring energy that connects all living things. When you and your partner were together, you created a unique energetic cord between you. This cord is woven from shared memories, laughter, intimacy, and dreams. It is real, and it is powerful. A breakup does not instantly sever this cord; it damages it, tangles it, and fills it with the painful energies of anger, sadness, and confusion. 

Our work is not to create something from nothing. It is to find that existing cord, however frayed it may be, and begin the sacred work of mending it. Love, in its purest form, is a force that can be harnessed and directed, but it must be approached with reverence and a deep understanding of its nature.

How a Breakup Creates Energetic Blockages

The intense pain you are feeling right now? That is an energetic blockage. Desperation, obsession, and constant sorrow create a heavy, chaotic energy around you. Think of it like this: if you want to receive a clear radio signal, you cannot have static blaring from your speakers. In the same way, if you want to send a clear, loving call to your ex, you cannot do it from a place of frantic, negative energy. 

When you are consumed by desperation, you are not sending out a call for love; you are sending out a signal of lack. This energy can actually push your ex further away, as it feels heavy and demanding on a spiritual level. The first step in any love work is to calm this static. The goal of a reconciliation spell is to cleanse that energetic cord, heal the damage, and send a pure, warm light of love and memory down that path, reminding their soul of the connection you shared.

The Voodoo Path to Reconciliation: A Crucial Word on Ethics

Now, we must speak of a truth that is the foundation of all powerful and positive magic: free will. Many people come to me thinking Voodoo is about dolls with pins and forcing people to do their bidding. This is a myth born of fear and misunderstanding, often spread by movies and television. True Voodoo, as practiced for generations in places like New Orleans, is a spiritual practice rooted in healing and connection with the spirits and our ancestors. 

Free Will is Sacred in Voodoo

I cannot say this strongly enough: you cannot, and should not, try to control another person’s heart. Love that is forced is not love at all; it is a cage, and it will eventually crumble into something ugly and painful. Ethical Voodoo practitioners believe that love spells must never be employed to manipulate or control another person’s feelings or actions. Your intention must be pure, and it must be for the highest good of all involved. If you desire to harm their new partner or to punish them for leaving, then this path is not for you. That road leads only to more heartache. 

The Dangers of Coercive Magic: A Warning from My Experience

In my experience, I have seen the disastrous results of spells cast with selfish or controlling intent. A common mistake I see is when someone tries a spell to create obsession, believing that intense focus is the same as love. They may get what they ask for, but it is a curse, not a blessing. The target of the spell can become possessive, jealous, and unstable, a shadow of the person they once were. The love they sought becomes a nightmare from which they cannot escape. Remember, the energy you send out will always return to you. If you send out control, control will find its way back into your life in ways you cannot predict. 

Our Goal: To Open a Door, Not to Force Them Through

So, what are we doing here? We are not building a cage. We are building a beautiful, warm, and inviting doorway. This spell is designed to:

• Heal the negative energy and emotional wounds surrounding your breakup.
• Remind your ex of the positive, loving feelings they once had for you, amplifying what is already there.
• Open a clear path for positive communication and reconciliation.

Whether they choose to walk through that door is up to their own free will. Our work is to make the path clear and the call of your heart pure and true. We are simply removing the debris of the breakup so that the light of your love can shine through once more.

Step 1: Preparing Your Spirit and Your Sacred Space

Proper preparation is half the magic. You would not cook a fine meal in a dirty kitchen, and you should not perform a sacred ritual in a cluttered space or with a troubled mind. This preparation phase is about creating the ideal conditions for your energy to flow freely and powerfully.

Cleansing Yourself: The Ritual Bath

Before you begin, you must cleanse your own energy. A ritual bath is a traditional and highly effective way to do this.

1. Fill your bathtub with warm water.
2. Add a handful of sea salt to purify and remove negative energetic attachments. Then, add a few drops of rose or lavender essential oil to invite loving energy. If you have them, scatter fresh rose petals on the water.  
   
    
3. As you soak in the water, close your eyes and visualize all the pain, anger, and desperation washing away from you. See it as a dark cloud in the water, flowing away from your body and down the drain, leaving you feeling light, calm, and centered.
4. When you get out, dress in clean, comfortable clothes, preferably in light colors like white or pink.

Purifying Your Space: Creating a Simple Altar

Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for at least an hour. This will be your sacred space.

• Choose a small table, a shelf, or even a clear corner of a room.
• Cleanse the space by burning some sage or incense (frankincense is excellent for this). Let the smoke waft into all corners, saying aloud, “I cleanse this space of all negative energy”. 
  
   
• This space is now your altar. It does not need to be fancy. A clean cloth, your spell ingredients, and your focused heart are all that is required to make a space sacred.

Setting Your Intention: The Most Important Ingredient

Your intention is the fuel for the spell. It is the command you give to the energy you are raising. It must be crystal clear. Before you begin the ritual, take a piece of paper and write down your truest desire. Do not write “I want to make him come back.” That is an order. Instead, write something from the heart that honors free will, like:

“I open the path for [Ex’s Name] to return to me in love and harmony. May the anger and pain between us be healed. May they remember the true love we shared. This I ask for the highest good of all, harming none.”

This act of writing clarifies your goal and ensures your intention is pure. Keep this paper on your altar. 

Step 2: A Simple Voodoo Spell to Get Your Ex Back

This ritual is designed to be gentle, loving, and powerful. It is a variation of a classic honey jar spell, a staple in folk magic traditions like Hoodoo, which is a close cousin to Louisiana Voodoo. The purpose of a honey jar is to sweeten a person’s feelings and disposition toward you.  

What You Will Need (The Ingredients)

Gather your tools. Each one has a symbolic meaning that adds its own energy to the working.

• A small, clean glass jar with a lid (a baby food jar or jam jar is perfect).
• A pink or red candle (pink for romantic, gentle love; red for passion and lust).  
  
   
• A photo of your ex and a photo of yourself, preferably ones where you both look happy.
• A small piece of paper (parchment is traditional, but any clean paper will do) and a pen with red ink.
• Honey (as pure and natural as you can find).
• Dried herbs: Rose petals for love, Rosemary for remembrance and fidelity, and Lavender for devotion and peace.
  
   
• A personal item from your ex, if you have one (like a strand of their hair), but this is optional and not necessary for the spell to work.
  
   

The Ritual: A Step-by-Step Guide to Your Reconciliation Spell

With your space and spirit cleansed and your intention set, you are ready to begin.

1. Prepare Your Altar: Sit before your cleansed altar. Light your incense to create a sacred atmosphere. Take several deep breaths to center yourself and quiet your mind.
2. Write Your Petition: On the piece of paper, write your ex’s full name. Turn the paper 90 degrees clockwise and write your full name directly on top of theirs, so the names form a cross. This is a traditional way to bind your energies together in a positive way. On the other side of the paper, write your intention (the one you prepared earlier).  
   
    
3. Assemble the Jar: Fold the paper towards you three times. Folding it towards you is a symbolic act of drawing something into your life. Place the folded paper in the jar. Now, take the two photos and place them in the jar so they are facing each other, as if you are looking into each other’s eyes.
4. Add the Herbs: As you add each herb, speak its purpose aloud to awaken its energy.
   • Add the rose petals: “For the love that was and can be again.”
   • Add the rosemary: “So you remember the good times and our bond.”
   • Add the lavender: “To bring peace and healing between us.”
5. Pour the Honey: Slowly pour the honey into the jar, covering the photos and the paper. As you pour, visualize the honey sweetening your ex’s thoughts and feelings about you. See their anger, hurt, and bitterness dissolving into warmth and sweetness. Fill the jar as much as you can.  
   
    
6. Seal the Spell: Close the jar tightly. Light your pink or red candle. Hold it over the jar and let the wax drip onto the lid, sealing it shut. As you do this, chant your intention aloud three times with feeling and focus. Visualize a seal of loving energy forming over the jar.
7. Charge the Jar: Once sealed, hold the jar in both hands. Close your eyes and pour all your loving energy, your happiest memories, and your sincere desire for reconciliation into it. Feel it growing warm in your hands, glowing with a soft, pink light.
8. Complete the Ritual: Place the charged jar on your altar. Let the candle burn down for at least an hour (or completely, if it is safe to do so in a fireproof dish). Never blow out a magical candle, as this is seen as blowing away your intention; snuff it out instead. Thank the spirits and your ancestors for their assistance. Store the jar in a safe, private place where it will not be disturbed.

[Image Placeholder: A close-up of a sealed honey jar, with candle wax on the lid, sitting next to a burning pink candle.] Alt Text: A completed honey jar spell to get your ex back, sealed with pink candle wax.

The Hidden Power Behind the Magic: Why Rituals Truly Work

Some people believe magic is a mysterious, supernatural force that exists outside of us. And it is. But it also works in perfect harmony with the immense power of your own mind. Understanding this does not diminish the magic; it deepens your connection to it and makes your work stronger.

The Psychology of Ritual and Belief

Modern science is beginning to understand what spiritual practitioners have known for centuries: rituals have a profound psychological effect. Performing a structured, symbolic act gives you a tangible sense of control in a situation where you feel utterly powerless. This process can dramatically reduce anxiety and help you focus your mental and emotional energy, which is a key component of what many today call “manifestation”.

When you perform this spell, you are not just mixing herbs and honey. You are engaging in a scripted sequence of actions that tells your subconscious mind you are actively taking steps to change your reality. This shifts you from a passive state of grief and waiting to an active state of empowerment and creation.

Manifestation vs. Magic: Aligning Your Mind and Spirit

The popular idea of “manifesting” says that your thoughts can attract your desires. This is a piece of the truth. However, as any experienced practitioner knows, just thinking about something is rarely enough. True magic combines belief with action. The spell is your action. It is a physical anchor for your intention.

By combining a positive mindset (belief) with a focused, practical ritual (action), you align your internal world with your external goals. You are sending a clear message to your own spirit and to the universe that you are ready for this change. This creates a powerful current of energy that can influence the world around you in subtle but profound ways.

Step 3: After the Spell Is Cast: What to Do (and What Not to Do)

The work is not over when the candle is extinguished. In fact, this next phase is just as important. How you conduct yourself in the days and weeks that follow is crucial to allowing the spell to work without interference.

Nurturing the Spell: Actions That Align With Your Goal

• Work on Yourself: The most attractive energy in the universe is genuine confidence and happiness. Focus on your own well-being. Reconnect with friends, pick up a hobby you love, and do things that make you feel good about yourself. This is what I call “self-concept” work, and it is vital. You must take your ex off the pedestal and put yourself back on it.  
  
   
• Maintain Positivity: Each day, take a moment to hold your honey jar (or simply think of it) and feel the loving energy you poured into it. Reaffirm your trust that the work is done and the energy is in motion.
  
   
• Be Open: If your ex reaches out, be calm, positive, and open. Do not immediately bring up old fights or act from a place of desperation. Be the person they fell in love with, but with the new strength and self-respect you have cultivated.

Protecting the Spell: Avoid These Common Mistakes

• Do Not Obsess: Constantly checking your phone, stalking their social media, or worrying if the spell is working creates that “static” we talked about. It suffocates the energy with doubt and anxiety. You must release your desire to the universe and trust the process. Let it go so it has the freedom to work. 
  
   
• Do Not Talk About It: Do not tell friends or family that you have cast a spell. Their doubt, skepticism, or even well-meaning questions can introduce negative energy that interferes with your work. This is a sacred secret between you and the spirits.
• Do Not Cast More Spells: Do not perform another reconciliation spell a few days later out of impatience. This is like digging up a seed to see if it has sprouted. Give the first spell time and space to work. Magic unfolds in its own time.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take for love spells that work fast to show results?

This is the most common question I receive, and the answer is always the same: it varies. There is no magic timetable. Some people see signs within days—an unexpected text, a “chance” encounter at the grocery store. For others, it may take several weeks as the energy works to clear more significant blockages between you. Patience and trust are your greatest allies. Rushing the process only creates resistance and tells the universe you doubt its power.

Can I use a spell to get my ex back if they are with someone else?

This is a very delicate situation and requires great care. My advice is to focus the spell on healing the bond between you and your ex, rather than trying to break up their current relationship. A spell cast with the intention of causing harm or separation to another can create negative karma that will surely find its way back to you. Focus on sending your ex loving, healing energy and reminding them of your connection. If their current relationship is not meant to be, it will end on its own. Your pure intention will then have a clear and open path.

What are the signs a love spell is working?

Signs can be subtle at first, so you must be open to seeing them. You might dream of them more often. You might hear “your song” in an unexpected place, or see their name pop up repeatedly. You may suddenly feel a sense of peace and optimism about the situation, as if a weight has been lifted. These are indications that the energetic connection is strengthening. The most concrete sign, of course, is when they reach out to you in a positive way.

Is it safe to do a Voodoo spell on my own?

The simple honey jar spell I have shared here is very safe, as it is based on positive, loving energy. It is considered “white magic” because its intent is to heal and attract, not to harm or control. As long as your intention is pure and you are not trying to override someone’s free will, you are working in a safe and sacred manner. For more complex situations, such as those involving third parties or deep-seated negativity, it is always wise to seek guidance from an experienced practitioner [LINK to our related internal article on Voodoo consultations]. 

Your Journey to Healing and Reunion Starts Now

The path back to a lost love is a journey of the spirit. It begins not with an act of control, but with an act of profound self-love and focused intention. You have learned that true Voodoo is about healing, that your intention is paramount, and that a simple ritual can be a powerful catalyst for change. You now understand that the magic is not just in the candle and the honey, but in the focused power of your own heart.

You have the knowledge and the tools. You have the power to calm the storm in your heart and send out a clear, beautiful call of love. Trust in yourself, trust in the process, and trust that the love you shared has left an echo in the universe that can be heard again. The work begins now.

Are you ready to take the first step on your path to reconciliation? If you feel you need personal guidance on your journey, or if your situation feels too complex to handle alone, I am here to help..