How to Get Your Ex Back When They Blocked You — A Complete Spiritual Guide

There are few things in this world that cut as deeply as trying to get your ex back when they have blocked you — opening your phone, typing that name, and seeing the dreaded notification: “You are blocked.” Your messages won’t go through. Silence swallows your calls before they even ring. Notably, your profile is invisible to them. To the rational mind, this looks like the end. After more than 30 years reuniting couples across the United States through West African love magic, I can tell you this with certainty: being blocked is rarely the end of your story. In many cases, it is simply the beginning of the most important chapter.

In this complete guide, I am going to walk you through everything you need to understand about how to get your ex back when they blocked you — the psychological reality of what blocking means, the spiritual dimension that most people never consider, and the sacred steps I recommend to clients from New York to Los Angeles, from Chicago to Houston, who have walked this exact path and found their way back to their beloved.

Why Your Ex Blocked You: The Truth Beyond the Obvious

The first thing most people assume when they get blocked is: they hate me. This is almost never the full truth. In my practice, I have counseled thousands of clients whose partners blocked them, and the underlying reason is almost always one of three spiritual and emotional realities:

• Emotional overwhelm: Your ex is flooded with feelings — grief, longing, anger — and blocking is their way of creating a wall to protect themselves from those feelings. If they truly did not care, they would not need the wall.
• Spiritual cord pain: The sacred cord between two people who have shared deep love does not break at separation. It vibrates. When your ex feels those vibrations — your energy reaching them — and does not know how to respond, they often retreat behind digital barriers.
• Third-party interference: In many cases I have worked on, a third party — a new relationship, a jealous friend, a family member — has convinced your ex that blocking you is the “healthy” choice. This is influence, not their authentic desire.
• Self-protection from their own desire: Your ex may be blocking you because they are afraid of what they still feel. They know that seeing your messages, your name, your face would break their resolve. The block is a dam holding back their own love.

Understanding why they blocked you is the first step toward knowing what spiritual and practical steps to take next. Not all blockings carry equal weight, and the approach matters enormously.

The Spiritual Reality Behind Getting Your Ex Back When Blocked

Here is something I want you to understand deeply: blocking only applies to digital channels. It does not and cannot sever the sacred energetic cord that connects two souls who have shared genuine love. Every meaningful romantic relationship creates what the Yoruba tradition calls an okun ife — a love cord — woven from shared experience, intimacy, and spiritual recognition.

When you shared deep connection with your ex, you and your ex wove this cord between your souls. It exists in the spiritual realm, not in the digital one. Your ex can block your number, your social media, your email — but they cannot block the cord. They still feel your energy. Moreover, they still receive the spiritual transmissions you send, consciously or not.

The block exists in the digital world. In fact, the love exists in the spiritual one. Work in the world where they cannot close the door. — Baba Ali, 30+ Years of Sacred Practice

This is why so many clients who come to me after their ex blocked them report that their ex eventually reached out from a different account, a mutual friend’s phone, or even showed up in person — despite the block. The cord draws them back — a pull psychologists partly explain through psychological reactance, where a restricted connection often intensifies the desire to reach out. Our work is simply to strengthen and clear that cord so the return happens more swiftly and completely.

What NOT to Do When Your Ex Blocks You

Before we discuss what to do, let me be very clear about what will make your situation worse. Here are the most common mistakes clients make in the panic after their ex blocks them:

The 7-Stage Spiritual Process for Getting Your Ex Back After Being Blocked

When clients come to me after being blocked, this is the sacred process I walk them through. It has brought reunions in cases that seemed completely hopeless — including cases where the block had been in place for over a year, cases involving new relationships, and cases where family pressure made things extremely complicated.

Stage 1: Silence and Cleansing — Getting Your Ex Back When Blocked (Days 1–7)

The first thing I always prescribe is what I call the sacred silence: a minimum of 30 days of zero attempted contact. During this time, you will focus entirely on your own spiritual preparation. You cannot draw your ex back if your own energy is chaotic, desperate, or toxic from grief.

During this stage, I recommend a spiritual cleansing bath — a ritual drawn from both West African Vodoun and Hoodoo traditions — using herbs like hyssop, rue, and lavender to clear your aura of the emotional debris of the breakup. This is not mysticism for its own sake. Notably, this is the practical work of making yourself spiritually clear and energetically attractive.

Stage 2: Divination — Reading the Cord (Week 2)

Before any active spell work begins, I perform a cowrie shell divination to read the state of the spiritual cord between you and your ex. This reading tells me:

• Whether the cord is still strong or has become thin and tangled
• Whether there is third-party spiritual interference (a common cause of sudden, unusual blocking)
• What the ex’s authentic emotional state is beneath their behavioral choices
• What the most aligned spiritual approach will be for this specific situation

This reading is essential. I never proceed with active spell work without it, because the wrong approach in the wrong situation can delay results significantly.

Stage 3: Cord Strengthening Work (Weeks 2–3)

Once the divination has confirmed the connection is spiritually viable — and in the vast majority of cases it is — we begin the active cord-strengthening work. This involves:

• Red thread binding: Using a length of red thread infused with specific herbs and oils, tied in seven sacred knots corresponding to the seven days of creation in Yoruba cosmology
• Oshun petition: A formal invocation to Oshun, the Yoruba goddess of love and sweet water, asking her to flow through the cord and restore warmth between the two souls
• Candle work: Specific candle colors and arrangements based on the client’s natal chart and the target’s energy signature

Stage 4: Third-Party Removal (If Applicable)

In approximately 60% of the blocked-ex cases I handle, there is a third-party element — either a new romantic interest or a friend/family member who has been whispering against your relationship. When this is the case, I perform separation work — a ritual designed not to harm the third party but to gently dissolve the unhealthy influence they have over your ex’s decision-making.

This work typically involves a combination of road-opening rituals and targeted candle work that loosens the bonds of outside influence while simultaneously strengthening the authentic cord between you and your ex.

Stage 5: The Return Spell (Week 3–4)

With the cord strengthened and obstacles cleared, we cast the primary reunion spell. In my practice, this typically involves a 7-day candle ritual using a combination of:

• Red, pink, and white candles representing passionate love, gentle reconciliation, and spiritual clarity
• A honey jar petition crafted with your ex’s name, your name, and a handwritten appeal to the ancestors
• Specific essential oils (primarily rose, jasmine, and vetiver) anointed at precise points on the candle
• An ancestral fire offering on the final night to seal the intention

Most clients who have gone through this process begin to observe signs of the spell working within 3–7 days of the ritual’s completion. These signs may include your ex lifting the block unexpectedly, a mutual friend suddenly mentioning your ex’s questions about you, or (most commonly) the ex making first contact from a new number or account.

Stage 6: The Strategic Re-entry to Get Your Ex Back When Blocked

When the block is lifted — whether by your ex directly or through the softening of the cord’s energy — the manner in which you re-enter their life is critical. I coach clients to respond from a place of calm warmth, not eagerness or relief. The returning ex should feel that you are secure, complete, and genuinely glad to hear from them — not that you have been waiting desperately.

Your first communication after the block should be brief, warm, and contain no reference to the block, to what they did, or to the relationship’s future. A simple, authentic message about something meaningful you shared is far more powerful than any heartfelt confession at this stage.

Stage 7: Relationship Restoration and Anchoring

The work does not end once you restore contact. Many couples who reconnect after a blocking period fall back into the same patterns that caused the separation — unless the spiritual and emotional roots of the issue have been fully addressed. This is why my full reunion service includes ongoing spiritual maintenance: monthly check-in rituals, aura protection, and relationship anchoring work to ensure that what has been restored stays strong.

Case Study: From Blocked on All Platforms to Engaged in 5 Months

Let me share the story of one client — I will call her Maya — from Atlanta, Georgia. Maya came to me in March 2025 after her partner of four years had blocked her on every platform, including WhatsApp, Instagram, and Facebook. He had also blocked her family members. There was a new woman in the picture, someone his family preferred.

The cowrie shell reading I performed revealed something Maya did not know: her ex was deeply conflicted. His new relationship was primarily a response to family’s pressure, not genuine love. Furthermore, the cord between him and Maya was still luminously bright — but interference energy from his family’s influence was creating a spiritual wall.

We spent six weeks on separation work to dissolve the family’s energetic influence, followed by a full 21-day reunion working. Five months later, Maya’s ex called her from his sister’s phone — the first contact in four months. They met for coffee three days later. By September, he had proposed. Notably, they are planning their wedding for spring 2027.

Maya’s case of getting her ex back after being blocked is not unique. It is illustrative of a pattern I have seen hundreds of times: what looks like a permanent ending is often a spiritual clearing in disguise, making space for a deeper reconnection to emerge.

Signs the Spiritual Work is Moving Your Ex Toward You

Even while the block is still in place, you may begin to notice signs that the spiritual work is shifting things in the unseen world:

• Vivid dreams where your ex appears warmly, speaking to you, reaching for you
• Mutual friends spontaneously bringing your ex up without prompting
• Seeing number sequences — 11:11, 222, 444 — associated with spiritual alignment
• A sudden, unexplained sense of peace about the situation replacing the anxiety
• Your ex’s social media activity becoming more wistful, nostalgic, or vaguely relational
• Your own energy noticeably lifting — a sign the cord is receiving more flow

These are not coincidences. They are the spiritual world communicating with you, confirming that the unseen movement toward getting your ex back after being blocked has begun.

How Long Does It Take to Get Your Ex Back When They’ve Blocked You?

This is the question I receive most often, and my answer is always honest: it depends on several factors. In cases where the cord is strong, there is no third-party involvement, and the client is spiritually prepared and emotionally regulated, I typically see significant movement within 3–7 days of the primary ritual’s completion, with full contact restoration within 21–45 days.

In cases involving active third-party relationships, deep family resistance, or significant spiritual blockages, the timeline may extend to 60–90 days. Even so, I have had cases that took up to six months — and every single one eventually resulted in reunion when the spiritual groundwork was properly laid.

What matters most when you want to get your ex back when blocked is not the speed but the quality of the work. A hasty, incomplete spiritual intervention can do more harm than good. The ancestors are not bound by our impatience, and neither is love.

Frequently Asked Questions About Getting Your Ex Back When Blocked

Can a love spell work if my ex has completely moved on with someone else?

Yes — in the majority of cases I handle, there is a new relationship present. The sacred cord between genuine soulmates does not break when another person enters the picture, and you can still get your ex back when blocked even in this situation. It simply becomes temporarily obscured, which is exactly why clients still get their ex back after being blocked once the interference clears. Separation work dissolves the interference, and cord-strengthening work draws your ex back to what is authentic. I have reunited couples where the ex was married to someone else for over a year.

Is it ethical to cast a spell on someone who blocked me?

My practice operates strictly within white magic — I never override free will. What I do is remove artificial obstacles (interference energy, miscommunication residue, third-party influence) that are blocking your ex’s authentic feelings from reaching the surface. I am not creating love that isn’t there; I am clearing the path for love that already exists to flow freely again.

How do I know if my situation is spiritually viable?

A cowrie shell divination reading is the only way to accurately assess this. In my 33 years of practice, I have found that the vast majority of relationships that prompt someone to seek spiritual assistance are viable — genuine soulmate bonds that have been disrupted by external interference, miscommunication, or spiritual attack. The reading gives us the map before we begin the journey.

What materials you need for the reunion ritual?

My services do not carry a price tag — it is against my spiritual tradition to charge for spell work itself. I ask clients only to provide or cover the cost of the ritual materials and supplies needed for their specific working (candles, herbs, oils, sacred items). After results manifest, clients may make a free-will donation as gratitude. This has been my practice for over 30 years.

Do you serve clients outside of Texas?

Yes. I serve clients across the entire United States, including New York, California, Florida, Georgia, Illinois, Pennsylvania, Ohio, Michigan, and all 50 states. My spiritual work operates remotely — the sacred cord between souls transcends physical distance, so you can get your ex back when blocked no matter where you live. Clients in Los Angeles receive the same quality of work as clients who visit me in San Antonio, Texas.

How quickly can I arrange the consultation?

I offer same-day and next-day consultation slots for urgent situations. Call (210) 651-2737 or submit a consultation request through my website to check availability. In true spiritual emergencies — where a new relationship is deepening rapidly — I prioritize same-day readings.

Your Next Step

Being blocked by someone you deeply love is one of the most painful experiences a human heart can endure. But I want you to hold this truth: the block is a digital boundary in a world where your connection lives beyond the digital. It is a chapter on the way to getting your ex back when blocked, not the conclusion.

I have sat with thousands of people who were exactly where you are right now — reading everything they could find, desperate for a path forward, wondering if there was any hope. Every one of them who followed this sacred process and trusted the work found their way back to their beloved. Not all in the same timeline. Not all through the same path. But eventually, all of them arrived.

Your love story is not over. The ancestors have not written the final chapter yet. Take the first step to get your ex back when blocked: schedule your free 30-minute consultation, let me read the state of your cord, and together we will map the path home.