How to Make Someone Obsessed With You (Ethically): A Spiritual Guide

Situational Magic

The word “obsession” carries a dark reputation in popular culture, associated with unhealthy fixation, stalking, and the kind of love that consumes rather than nourishes. This reputation is not entirely undeserved — unethical obsession work exists in the world of love magic, and I refuse to perform it. But it has created a misleading picture that prevents many people from understanding how to make someone obsessed with you ethically — and why, in the right circumstances, this is one of the most powerful and legitimate tools in the love spell practitioner’s repertoire.

My name is Baba Ali. I have been practicing West African love magic for 33 years, and in that time I have been asked more often than almost any other request: can you make someone obsessed with you — think about me constantly? Can you make them unable to get me out of their mind? Can you make them need to see me?

The answer is yes — under specific conditions, within a clear ethical framework, and through methods that work with the authentic feelings that already exist rather than manufacturing something artificial. This article explains exactly what that means and how it works.

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What “Obsession” Really Means in Love Magic

In the context of ethical love magic, “obsession” does not mean the pathological fixation of someone who has lost their autonomy and free will to an unnatural force. It means the state you create when you make someone obsessed with you ethically — a state in which someone finds themselves constantly drawn to think of you, unable to fully redirect their attention away from you, and compelled by what feels to them like organic, genuine feeling to seek your presence.

This state is actually completely natural — it is what people experience in the early stages of deep romantic love, before familiarity and routine dilute it. The goal when you make someone obsessed with you is not to impose something unnatural; it is to recreate or amplify a state that is inherently human and that most people have experienced at some point in their lives.

The difference between ethical and unethical ways to make someone obsessed with you lies entirely in what the work is operating on. Ethical work amplifies genuine existing feelings — real attraction, real history, real connection — making them more vivid, more present, and more consistently in the target’s awareness. Unethical work attempts to create feelings from nothing or to override a person’s genuine lack of interest. In fact, the former works with spiritual law. The latter works against it — and in my 33 years of practice, I have consistently found that work done against spiritual law produces unstable, short-lived results and energetic consequences I am unwilling to generate for my clients.

Where the Ethical Line Is Drawn

Let me be entirely direct about what I will and will not do, because this is an area where clarity matters enormously.

I will perform obsession work when: There is a genuine pre-existing connection between the client and the target — a real relationship history, a genuine mutual attraction that has existed at some point, or a deep and reciprocal spiritual resonance that I can verify through divination. The client’s goal is love, connection, and mutual happiness — not control, revenge, or the satisfaction of possessing someone who does not want them. Moreover, the target’s authentic feelings, once you remove the obstacles to their expression, would genuinely include strong attraction to the client.

I will not perform obsession work when: The target has never shown genuine interest in the client and there is no authentic connection to amplify. Moreover, the client’s goal is possession or control rather than love. The situation involves a target who is in a healthy, satisfying relationship that has no spiritual basis for disruption. Or when the divination reading indicates that this level of work is not aligned with the client’s or target’s highest good.

These are not arbitrary restrictions. They are the product of 33 years of observing what works and what does not, and of operating within a spiritual tradition that has consistently made clear that magic performed outside of spiritual law produces results that harm the practitioners and clients as much as the targets.

Seven candles burning in the traditional attraction pattern represent seven days of focused spiritual work — building layer upon layer of energetic pull toward the client.

How to Make Someone Obsessed With You: The Mechanism

The mechanism of ethical obsession work operates on three simultaneous levels.

The Energetic Level

Every person radiates a continuous energetic signal — a frequency broadcast by their emotional state, their physical body, and their spirit. Most people broadcast this signal unconsciously and inconsistently. What obsession work does at the energetic level is concentrate and enhance your signal, making it more vivid and more present in the target’s energetic field. It is the spiritual equivalent of turning up the volume on a frequency that was already playing — the target becomes progressively more aware of your energetic presence, even when you are not physically nearby.

The Subconscious Level

The target’s subconscious mind is the primary site of attraction-before-consciousness — the level where the feeling of “I cannot stop thinking about this person” originates. Targeted ritual work, particularly when conducted over multiple consecutive days with appropriate materials and invocation, operates directly on this subconscious level, installing the client’s energetic signature as a recurring reference point. Moreover, the target finds thoughts of the client arising spontaneously, naturally, and with increasing frequency — not as an intrusion but as something that feels like their own authentic experience.

The Spiritual Level

At the deepest level, the work invokes specific spiritual forces — primarily Oshun and the client’s personal ancestors — to actively draw the target’s attention and feeling toward the client. This is not coercion; it is facilitation. The spiritual forces act to clear whatever is blocking the target’s authentic feelings from reaching their conscious awareness, while simultaneously making the client more spiritually visible and magnetically compelling in the target’s inner world.

When Should You Make Someone Obsessed With You?

Ethical obsession work is most appropriate and most effective in these specific situations:

Reconnection with a former partner where the relationship ended while genuine love was still present on both sides, and the separation was caused by external obstacles (circumstances, distance, interference) rather than a genuine and healthy decision to part. In these cases, the target’s authentic feelings for the client are present but suppressed, and obsession work accelerates their return to conscious awareness.

Early-stage relationships where there is clear mutual interest but one party (usually the target) is hesitating due to fear, past wounds, or uncertainty. Obsession work in this context amplifies the genuine attraction that already exists and helps the hesitating party overcome the internal obstacles to pursuing what they actually want.

Long-distance situations where genuine, deep connection exists but physical distance is causing the relationship to fade through inattention and competing local presence. Keeping yourself vivid in someone’s awareness when you are not physically present is one of the legitimate and powerful applications of this type of work.

Reigniting passion in established relationships where the couple is genuinely committed and love is present but the intensity and urgency of early attraction has naturally faded over time. This is perhaps the most clearly ethical application — both parties want deeper passion and this work creates the conditions for it.

Honey jar spells — sweetening the target’s thoughts and feelings about you — are one of the foundational techniques in ethical obsession and attraction work.

The Ritual to Make Someone Obsessed With You

Here is the core ritual framework I use for ethical obsession work. This is designed to be conducted over seven consecutive days, building cumulative energetic momentum with each session.

Materials

You will need: one red candle (passion, desire), one pink candle (tender love and personal connection), attraction oil (available from botanicas or prepared at home using rose oil, cinnamon oil, and a drop of vanilla), a small jar with honey, a photograph of the target, your full name written on paper, rose petals, and a piece of lodestone or magnetic sand if available.

Day 1 — Setting the Foundation

Create a clean, dedicated space. Place the red and pink candles side by side, about six inches apart. Between them, place the honey jar with the photograph of your target inside it (folded and pushed into the honey gently). Around the jar, create a circle of rose petals. Write your name on the paper and place it in front of the jar. Light the red candle first, then the pink. Speak aloud: Oshun, mother of love and honey rivers, I call on your power. Let [target’s name] think of me constantly. May my face rise in their mind unbidden. May my voice echo in their thoughts. Let the pull between us grow stronger with each passing hour. All of this in alignment with my highest good and theirs. Ashé.

Days 2–6 — Building the Field

Each evening, light fresh candles (the same colors), refresh the rose petals if needed, and spend 10 to 15 minutes in genuine visualization — see the target turning toward you, reaching out to you, being unable to stop thinking about you. Feel the satisfaction of the connection being reestablished rather than the anxiety of hoping for it. The emotional state during the visualization is the actual fuel of the ritual.

Day 7 — Sealing the Work

On the final night, after the candles have burned fully, take a small amount of honey from the jar on your fingertip and place it on your tongue, saying: As this honey is sweet, let I be sweet in [target’s name]’s thoughts. As this honey is sticky, let their mind return to me again and again. Seal the jar, wrap it in red cloth, and place it in a drawer or hidden place where it will not be disturbed. The honey jar maintains the energetic work continuously as long as it sits undisturbed.

The infinity knot in red thread symbolizes the continuous loop of attraction being established — the target’s thoughts returning to you again and again, naturally and organically.

Signs You Are Making Someone Obsessed With You

How will you know when the obsession work is producing results? Here are the signs I tell clients to watch for, typically appearing within 3 to 14 days of beginning the ritual:

• Unexpected contact — they reach out for seemingly small or casual reasons. This is the most significant sign and typically indicates the work is reaching their subconscious effectively.
• Increased social media engagement — they begin viewing your stories, liking older content, or engaging with things they had previously ignored.
• Reports from mutual connections — friends mention that the target has been asking about you or bringing you up in conversation.
• A change in their energy when they encounter you — they are more animated, more self-conscious, more attentive than before. Something in their manner has shifted.
• Your own energetic shift — you begin feeling calmer and more certain about the situation, less anxious, more confident. This internal shift often precedes the external manifestation.
• Dreams — both you and sometimes the target report vivid dreams involving each other. Dream contact is one of the clearest signs of active energetic work between two people’s subconscious fields.

Sustaining Deep Attraction Over Time

One question clients consistently ask is: if the obsession spell works, how long does the effect last? Do I need to repeat the ritual indefinitely?

The honest answer depends on several factors. In situations where the ritual creates the conditions for genuine reconnection and the relationship itself is reestablished and thriving, the initial spell work is generally not needed ongoing — the living relationship generates its own energetic field that sustains attraction naturally. In situations where the target has not yet made direct contact but the signs are positive, a repeat of the seven-day ritual after a 21-day rest period is often appropriate to build additional momentum.

For clients who want to maintain a consistent, heightened attraction field over time — particularly in long-distance situations or complex relationship dynamics — I work with them on an ongoing basis to assess, refresh, and adjust the spiritual work as the situation evolves. The honey jar maintained in a drawer continues to work passively once the initial ritual is complete, and occasional refreshing of the honey and rose petals keeps the work active.

A properly dressed and activated attraction candle becomes an ongoing energetic transmitter — broadcasting your specific frequency into the spiritual field of your target continuously as it burns.

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About Baba Ali

Baba Ali is a certified West African spiritual practitioner with over 33 years of experience in ethical love magic and attraction work. He specializes in complex romantic situations requiring targeted spiritual intervention. ANHA certified. NSA affiliated. Best African Love Spell Caster 2020 & 2022. Contact: (210) 651-2737 | [email protected]