Of everything I am asked to do, this situation arrives with the most emotional charge attached to it. Your ex is with someone new, or leaning toward someone new, and the version of the story your mind builds is usually about that person — as though removing them is the whole task. It rarely is. This article is about what actually determines whether reconciliation is possible here, and what I will and will not do about the third party themselves.

What Actually Determines the Outcome

Before any working, I need an honest read on three separate questions, because they point to three different kinds of work.

What Third-Party Removal Actually Does

The working targets the attachment itself, not either person as an individual. In practice this means clearing the energetic pull the rival currently has, while simultaneously doing reconciliation work aimed at reopening the connection between you and your ex. One without the other rarely produces a lasting result — removing interference into an empty space just leaves an empty space; reconciliation attempted while active interference is present tends to stall against it.

The order matters. I generally clear the interference first, then move to reconciliation once the field is open. Attempting both simultaneously, or reconciliation first, is a common mistake among practitioners who have not been trained to sequence this properly.

We are not removing a person. We are removing the reason they currently matter more than they should. — Baba Ali

Where I Am Honest About the Odds

I will not tell every client this situation is workable, because it is not always. If the new relationship is genuinely stable and your original relationship had run its natural course before it ended, the honest answer in a consultation is often that the work is unlikely to succeed, and I say so rather than take a materials cost for something I doubt.

Where the odds are genuinely better is exactly the pattern described above: an unresolved ending, a rebound that reads as unstable, and a client whose intention remains focused on reconnection rather than on the rival. That combination is the one I take seriously in a reading, using the same cowrie process described on the how it works page.

What Makes This Worse — Common Mistakes

• Contacting or confronting the new partner. This almost always backfires socially and does nothing spiritually. It also makes your ex defend the relationship you are trying to undo.
• Escalating contact with your ex. Frequent messages during this window read as pressure, and pressure pushes people toward whoever feels calmer by comparison — often the new partner.
• Publicly airing the situation. Social media posts about the breakup or the new relationship reach your ex indirectly and rarely help your case.
• Requesting harm instead of removal. Beyond being something I won’t perform, requests aimed at damaging the rival tend to keep a client emotionally stuck on the wrong target instead of moving toward the actual goal.

The services page for this specific situation, remove third party spell, covers the working itself in more detail once a reading has confirmed it’s the right fit.

Frequently Asked Questions

A Final Word From Baba Ali

This is one of the situations where I most need a client to be honest with me — and with themselves — before we begin. The work can genuinely help when the underlying connection was real and unresolved. It cannot manufacture a bond that was already gone, and it will not touch the third party as a person. Tell me the truth about where things actually stand, and I’ll tell you the truth about what’s possible.